Have you ever felt like you’re the one and lonely? Like you are going through life doing your best to live for Christ and focus on the path He has set before you, but it is hard because you are the only one you know who is actually doing so?
We know that we have been put on earth for a purpose, that we need to live a life focusing on the One who created us and that we need to live out this focus by glorifying Him. But sometimes life just brings us down and we feel like we can’t do it anymore. How exactly are we supposed to be a shining light in the world when there is just so much darkness around us and we want to succumb to what is easier?
Well, one of the most important things to remember is that we are not called to live this life on our own. Instead, we are called to be in communion with other believers who can encourage us in our faith and who we can encourage in return. We need to surround ourselves with people who share our focus.
Who Are You Friends With?
“The righteous choose their friends carefully, but the way of the wicked leads them astray.” – Proverbs 12:26 (NIV)
Some people may seem appealing but really, all they are doing is pulling you down. I personally am friends with both Christians and non-Christians. However, I choose to spend the majority of my time with people who share my faith. I also make sure that my non-Christian friends are not specifically trying to persuade me to change my thinking. They understand what I believe and while they do not necessarily agree with me, they do not try and make me do things that go against my convictions. This is an important thing to me because it means I don’t have an issue with peer pressure. Maybe you have different standards about who you are friends with, but it is important to remember that you should choose your friends carefully to avoid the temptation to stumble.
How Do You Behave in Your Friendships?
“Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up.” – Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 (NIV)
This verse tells us that there is a lot of good in having a friend who can be there to pick you up when you fall. But here’s the catch–your friend has to know that you are falling.
It is good to have people around you who share your focus, as it means that you will not have to constantly watch your back to make sure that you aren’t following a wrong path or being prodded to do wrong. But are you specifically prodding each other towards the right thing? Are you there to help each other, are you sharing your troubles, are you being encouraging and are you holding one another accountable? Are your friendships purposeful or are you simply floating through life together knowing that at least you both won’t want to do anything too wrong because, hey, you’re both Christians and know sinning is wrong.
Are you comfortable enough with your friends to ask them to pray for you, to explain an area of your life that you are really struggling with, to be vulnerable and admit the sins you are struggling to let go of? Are you showing the love of Christ to each other so that you leave your time together fired up to live a life that glorifies God?
From One in Lonely to All in this Together
“Therefore encourage one another and build each other up as you are already doing.” – 1 Thessalonians 5:11 (NIV)
Remember that we are not meant to live life alone but to have good relationships with other believers. Don’t try and do this on your own, surround yourself with other people who share your focus.
The Reckless Abandon blog team did an entire series a while back about how to live purposeful friendships. Check it out at Come Alongside