I bet we’re all familiar with the phrase “it’s not you, it’s me.” Which, in fact, translates as “it is you.” When you’re not quite good enough anymore. When things aren’t quite right anymore. It isn’t that you are completely wrong, just not quite right.
Sadly, we often have this attitude towards God. It isn’t that we think that God is wrong because we all know that He is right, there are just moments in our lives when God is not quite good enough. In my life, I have identified several areas where I act like God isn’t quite good enough. Some of these may seem familiar to you.
When I’ve had a horrible day…
I’d much rather wallow in everything that has gone wrong for the whole day and just shut off. God is there to help us always.
“The Lord your God is in your midst, a mighty one who will save.” (Zephaniah 3:17 ESV)
But I often simply brush it off, saying, “it’s okay God, not now, I just want to lie here and feel sad and frustrated.” – it’s almost like I enjoy complaining. The same way someone with a splinter in their foot refuses to have someone pull it out and instead hobbles along whining, “ow. Ow. OOOW.” With. Every. Single. Step.
When I’m lonely and need someone to talk to…
The first person I should be going to is God, the perfect person to go to since He understands me better than I do myself!
“Before I formed you in the womb I knew you.” (Jeremiah 1:5 ESV)
Despite this, however, I often just want to talk to my friends. There is nothing wrong with talking to my friends about the things that bother me. The problem comes when I replace God with my friends. He is the ultimate source of comfort, yet I often decide that He’s not good enough and turn to other sources of comfort. It makes as much sense as buying a new pair of winter socks, but then still wearing the old ones with holes in them! (And no, I’m not comparing my friends to old socks!)
When I am busy wallowing in guilt…
Like a stubborn child who would rather sit out in the rain and the mud and catch a cold, than simply take a bath. We have all been saved by grace. Too often, though, I let the guilt of my many wrongs weigh me down, when in reality, if we ask God to forgive us, He does!
“Repent therefore, and turn back, that your sins may be blotted out, that times of refreshing may come from the presence of the Lord.” (Acts 3:19-20 ESV)
Yes, there will be consequences for our actions, but the guilt we choose to carry with us does not need to weigh us down like a handicap. God has lifted that burden and holding on to my guilt is like telling Him that He is not quite good enough to forgive my sins.
When I worry….
We get told about this all the time; that holding on to worry about things we cannot possible change is showing that we don’t trust God. Now when it comes to worrying, I will be one of the first identified for worrying too much. But it isn’t necessary. When I sit there worrying about things, it’s showing that God is not quite good enough for me. I may as well be squinting into the sunlight, melting my eyeballs in the process, while I have a perfectly good pair of sunglasses in my hand.
“Therefore I tell you, do not be anxious about your life, what you will eat or what you will drink, nor about your body, what you will put on. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothing? Look at the birds of the air: they neither sow nor reap nor gather into barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not of more value than they? And which of you by being anxious can add a single hour to his span of life?” (Matthew 6:25-27 ESV)
He is in complete control of everything. He knows every detail of the lives of everything on this earth and beyond. Things will work out according to His plan.
When I am not using the skills and opportunities that He has given me…
God has blessed each and every one of us with talents and unique opportunities, but I often sit back and do nothing with these skills. Like they aren’t quite good enough or quite precious enough. As if I can’t write the story that’s been going through my mind because I have a blue pen instead of a purple one.
“Having gifts that differ according to the grace given to us, let us use them.” (Romans 12:6 ESV)
When I am trying to do things in my own strength…
When I attempt to go through life using my own strength and my own skills, I am telling God that He is not quite good enough, conveniently forgetting that He is the one who gave me those skills and provides me with that strength. Almost like I keep trying to swim to another country instead of simply buying a plane ticket – it’s madness!
“Thus says the Lord: Cursed is the man who trusts in man and makes flesh his strength, whose heart turns away from the Lord. He is like a shrub in the desert, and shall not see any good come. He shall dwell in the parched places of the wilderness, in an uninhabited salt land. Blessed is the man who trusts in the Lord, whose trust is the Lord.” (Jeremiah 17:5-7 ESV)
And finally, when I am fed up with the life that I have. The place where I live. The clothes that I have. The budget that seems to control my life. My own annoying traits. My appearance. That random strand of hair that just does its own thing every single time. When I am discontent with these things, these God-given things, I am telling Him that they are not quite good enough for me. Which is nearly as stupid as throwing away a brand-new jacket because you spilled one teeny tiny drop of water on it.
Here is where I need to realize that the phrase “it’s not you, it’s me” has no hidden meaning in this context. It is me! I am acting like God is not quite good enough, when in reality, I am not just not quite good enough, I am not anything. Yet I have received grace and it’s time I started acting like it, and I hope that you do the same.