Confession: I named this post after that song in High School Musical 3. That song where they are dancing on the roof in the rain for no apparent reason? Yeah, that one. I don’t know why, but when I was thinking about this article, that song was stuck in my head. This verse in particular:
Take my hand, I’ll take the lead
And every turn will be safe with me
Don’t be afraid, afraid to fall
You know I’ll catch you through it all
I think that verse summarizes what we will be discussing this month quite well. You see, the thing is, you cannot go through life alone. You will turn and there won’t be anyone there, and you will fall and no one will be there to catch you. But that isn’t how God intended us to live life; He wants us to go through life coming alongside each other and being a support. He created us to be relational beings, not just with Him but with each other. This is demonstrated right in the beginning at creation:
“Then the Lord God said, ‘It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make a helper fit for him” – Genesis 2:18 (ESV)
Throughout Scripture, we then see the value of friendship and how important it is, through people like Ruth and Naomi, David and Jonathan, Mary and Elizabeth, Jesus and His twelve disciples, and more. We are not meant to go through life alone, but instead, are meant to have people around us who can help us and catch us when we fall.
I know that I am grateful for my friends. I am grateful for the times when they’ve been there for my good moments and my bad ones, when they have caught me when I am falling, when I have needed to cry and they have listened, when I am being a pain and they tell me. Because if I didn’t have them, I would still be very lost and I would be extremely lonely. Just this week, I have been going through a hard time and I have had friends who have phoned me, texted me, been willing to stay up into the night and talk to me; they have encouraged and exhorted me because they are my friends and that’s what they are supposed to do.
But the problem comes in when friendship stops being intentional. When we forget who we are supposed to be to that person and what we are supposed to do for them. We can get so caught up in the fact that we spend an exorbitant amount of time in their company, that we forget how to be a good friend. Life becomes merely sending each other a good morning text and tagging them on Facebook when something reminds you of them.
So, this month at Reckless Abandon we want to remind you of how to be a good and godly friend. How to have a biblical friendship that glorifies God and come alongside one another in a way that is helpful and wonderful. We want to show you some of the things you can do to have a great friendship. Sometimes it isn’t entirely pleasant, it isn’t always fun to forgive someone or to tell them when they are in the wrong, but it is important.
Take this month to focus on being intentional. Take a moment to focus on your friendships and consider how much they mean to you and how amazing they could actually be if you put in the effort. And then do, because you need someone to catch you when you fall, and it can feel good to be the one who does the catching.