Trust, the word alone brings to my mind several names of close friends and family. Trust is an essential part of everyone’s life. Not just trust, but the people we trust. Who are you putting your trust in? Who are the people you have faith in?
To me, trust is being able to talk to someone with no reservations and not being afraid of the consequences.
The definition of trust in the dictionary is: assured reliance on the character, ability, strength, or truth of someone or something. True friends should be the people that you rely on in all of those areas. I challenge you as you read this to think about the friends you have in your life and whether or not they are reliable. Not only looking at the people in your life but, I also challenge you to look at yourself.
Do you have good character?
Are you truthful?
If you expect people to trust you then you’ve got to work to be a trustworthy person. Life is made of working for things. This is pretty much the easiest it’s going to get for a long time. You have to earn the trust from your parents, right? When we mess up or disobey they still love us. Sure we probably get punished or grounded but in the end they still love us; that doesn’t mean we should go and mess up again just because we know they’ll forgive us. We should work harder to earn their trust back and not do something that will betray that trust.
It’s the same with friends. It inevitably hurts both of you if you don’t work the problem out and are careful not to make the same mistakes in the future. It’s also our job as Christians to forgive our friends if they have wronged us. Matthew 18:21-22 says, “Then came Peter to him, and said, Lord, how oft shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? till seven times? Jesus saith unto him, I say not unto thee, Until seven times: but, Until seventy times seven.” To me personally that means that not only am I to forgive them but also to give them a chance to earn my trust back.
Sometimes we as people forget that everyone struggles with the same things, sure, some problems are bigger than others and some mountains taller than others. What we need to realize is that the push or shove that we had to get from a loved one to trust them is the same push or shove that everyone else needs. We’re teenagers. Life seems like it’s hopeless and crazy and impossible. Can you imagine going through these years without people you trust? Or without people who trust you? I can’t. There’s something truly special and irreplaceable about genuinely being able to trust someone with your heart and soul and the spiritual struggles in your life.
I could tiptoe around this subject but, I’m not going to. When I said that we all have the same struggles I meant it. One of the hardest things for most teenagers to do is to be completely open and trusting. It’s just so easy to crawl into a hole of our own battle with Satan and attempt to just weather the storm without any help from anyone. I know I’ve been there. I wanted to just push everyone and everything away from me because I thought it would help me. I thought that it was just the only way to protect myself. It was utterly selfish. I let the things going on in my head stay there and fester until I couldn’t hold them in anymore. Protecting myself just because of the fear I had of being betrayed?
When does it stop? When we make the decision for it to stop, that’s when; because trust is a choice, trusting in God, trusting our parents, trusting the friends that have earned it. Stephen Covey said, “Trust is the glue of life. It is the most essential ingredient in effective communication. It’s the foundational principle that holds all relationships.”
Betrayed trust breaks hearts, destroys marriages, ruins friendships, it demolishes what might have been a beautiful relationship. Unlike relationships with people on earth, your relationship with God can always be fixed. Cherish it.
2 Corinthians 1:9 says, “But we had the sentence of death in ourselves, that we should not trust in ourselves, but in God which raiseth the dead.” How obvious is it that trusting in our own abilities won’t help us grow and mature? It is so easy to see the answer, trusting in God with all that is in us, but also so easy to ignore it. So many times I have seen my friends subject themselves to internal turmoil just because they won’t trust in God and the people he has put in their lives.
Without trust, we become numb and suspicious. That isn’t the life God intended us to have. Even if you have no one else to trust, you have God. He will never fail you. If there is no one else you can talk to, you can talk to him. He’s the friend you can call on at 3 AM or 3 PM.
He is ALWAYS there.
~ Anne Badgett, Guest Author for The Heart of Teens